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10/01/2008
Question:
It’s the start of another new school year. How do I get off to a good start with my child’s teacher?
Teachers usually tune in to helping students and parents navigate the newness of the classroom and social setting. “They want [them] to feel as though they are available to help, that they care and that they’ll do whatever they can to help students have a good experience,” says Bob Tate, senior policy analyst with the National Education Association Department of Education Policy and Practice.
Here’s what you had to say about ensuring a smooth transition:
“I always give the teachers something sweet to eat, especially at the beginning of the year, during parent-teacher conferences and at other times that keep them at work for longer hours. I also remember to write encouraging notes that acknowledge their lives outside of their jobs and thank them for working with my kids.”
—Lynn D., Avondale, PA, mother of 4
“We always let the teacher know that we anticipate a good year with our child under their direction, and let them know we are open to suggestions to foster our child’s growth.”
—Jackie G., Clifton Park, NY, mother of 2
“The more face time the better. I let them know I respect their schedule and find out when it’s best to meet and talk. I schedule an appointment if necessary.”
—Christian S., Denver, CO, father of 2
“I hand her a list—my cell, my home, my wife’s cell, both our work numbers—and let her know that we would welcome a call at any time if she is experiencing problems.”
—Matthew D., Lookout Mountain, TN, father of 2
“I try to stop by with my child the week before school starts, when the teacher is setting up the room. We can usually get a few minutes of undivided time. But we never stay too long—we don’t want to give an impression of being high-maintenance!”
—Elliot L., Beverly Hills, MI, father of 2
Remember, you can help your children in the classroom, even when you aren’t there. Remind them to listen closely and ask questions if they don’t understand directions, says Tate. “Parents should contact the teacher frequently enough to meet information and guidance needs, but respect her time and how she prefers to communicate.”
